I constantly give advise to my friends about dating and it works well for them, but i can never use my own advise… i think its cuz im to shy to do anything about dating or trying to have a relationship with a guy.
We all believe we’re different from someone else. We give advice to our friends, telling them that the cute guy at the bus stop likes them. But if we were in the situation ourself, we wouldn’t assume the cute guy liked us. It’s all about self-confidence. Being a rather shy person myself, I find it very easy to give advice to others, however it’s very difficult to take a chance and follow my own advice.
Next time you see someone interesting, try to analyse their body language etc. as you would for a friend (don’t let wish-fulfillment of low self-confidence make you imagine signals that aren’t really there). I find that works, even if you are shy, you will come to realise that the things you tell your friends are infact very relevant to you.
Making the first move is hard, but you may regret not making it later, and life is about living ie. taking risks!
July 21st, 2010 at 12:04 am
We all believe we’re different from someone else. We give advice to our friends, telling them that the cute guy at the bus stop likes them. But if we were in the situation ourself, we wouldn’t assume the cute guy liked us. It’s all about self-confidence. Being a rather shy person myself, I find it very easy to give advice to others, however it’s very difficult to take a chance and follow my own advice.
Next time you see someone interesting, try to analyse their body language etc. as you would for a friend (don’t let wish-fulfillment of low self-confidence make you imagine signals that aren’t really there). I find that works, even if you are shy, you will come to realise that the things you tell your friends are infact very relevant to you.
Making the first move is hard, but you may regret not making it later, and life is about living ie. taking risks!
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Personal Experience
July 21st, 2010 at 12:34 am
there is an old proverb that goes "Those that can do and those that can’t teach"
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