If you do, how do you know that you still love your partner and they still love you? How do you measure if it is better to stay together or split? How do you work the problems out?
Of course every couple has problems. Its part of life and a part of marriage. If anyone tells you they don’t have problems within their marriage, they must be lying.
When my husband and I have something that bothers one of us or causes us to argue, then we rationally talk it out. Usually, we drop the subject and let each other cool down. Once we are both level headed, we approach the issue together and communicate about it. We try to be upfront about it and work it out. Anytime we get mad at each other, we BOTH appologize for our words or actions. For example, a few days ago, he was playing a game on the XBOX while I was trying to have a serious convo with him, and it made me upset. I told him to IM me when he was ready to devote his undivided attention to me about our family situation. He got upset with me, and it became a stupid petty little tiff. So after we stopped bickering, I appologized to him for being snappy about things, and for giving him attitude, and in return, he appologized for not being completely devoted to the conversation in question. We both appologized for things we did wrong, and we are specific so that the other knows that we truly learned a lesson from the tiff. We were then able to come to a mutual agreement so that the arguement doesn’t occur again. We agreed that when he is gaming, he will say "hey sweetie, I am in the middle of a game, let me get to a stopping point and I will give you my full attention," and in return I agree and thank him for the heads up.
For my husband and I, communication is the best way to work out our issues and prevent more issues from arising. We feel that no arguement is too small or too big to work out. When we said our vows, we promised to stick by what we said, so there’s not an option to run away scared. It won’t solve anything.
Just because people argue or go through bad times doesn’t mean they love each other any less. Marriage has its ups and its downs, just like everything else in life. How you approach it is what makes all the difference.
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March 8th, 2010 at 6:10 pm
Every marriage has issues at times. But because they love and respect each other, they work through them with compromise and by talking it out.
The time to split is if you can no longer agree on a compromise, and when you make each other miserable more often than happy.
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March 8th, 2010 at 6:23 pm
It took me too long to find the perfect husband… we never fight or disagree over anything. We are honest and true and talk about everything… we did all the rest with our past spouses, we wanted complete love in every way and found it.
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March 8th, 2010 at 6:36 pm
Of course every couple has problems. Its part of life and a part of marriage. If anyone tells you they don’t have problems within their marriage, they must be lying.
When my husband and I have something that bothers one of us or causes us to argue, then we rationally talk it out. Usually, we drop the subject and let each other cool down. Once we are both level headed, we approach the issue together and communicate about it. We try to be upfront about it and work it out. Anytime we get mad at each other, we BOTH appologize for our words or actions. For example, a few days ago, he was playing a game on the XBOX while I was trying to have a serious convo with him, and it made me upset. I told him to IM me when he was ready to devote his undivided attention to me about our family situation. He got upset with me, and it became a stupid petty little tiff. So after we stopped bickering, I appologized to him for being snappy about things, and for giving him attitude, and in return, he appologized for not being completely devoted to the conversation in question. We both appologized for things we did wrong, and we are specific so that the other knows that we truly learned a lesson from the tiff. We were then able to come to a mutual agreement so that the arguement doesn’t occur again. We agreed that when he is gaming, he will say "hey sweetie, I am in the middle of a game, let me get to a stopping point and I will give you my full attention," and in return I agree and thank him for the heads up.
For my husband and I, communication is the best way to work out our issues and prevent more issues from arising. We feel that no arguement is too small or too big to work out. When we said our vows, we promised to stick by what we said, so there’s not an option to run away scared. It won’t solve anything.
Just because people argue or go through bad times doesn’t mean they love each other any less. Marriage has its ups and its downs, just like everything else in life. How you approach it is what makes all the difference.
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Wisdom gained from my parents marriage of 26 years.
March 8th, 2010 at 6:53 pm
Every marriage has problems from time to time, the main thing to do is try and reach a compromise. Often this is not possible so you need to some times swallow your pride and except that you cannot win the all.
Ja.
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March 8th, 2010 at 7:20 pm
There is no such thing as a perfect marriage, therefore problems in the
marriage will always exist at times, however communication, trust,
love, support, honesty, will always resolve the problems in the
marriage. Married so far over 22yrs, we have our ups and downs, but
it has made a solid foundation into our relationship that our marriage
is still strong and happy. My parents were married for 55yrs, and
imagine the ups and downs they had, but in the end they lived out
their lives being together, can’t get any better than that.
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March 8th, 2010 at 7:36 pm
My husband of 11 years says he is deeply in love with me, truly happy, and never wanted anyone else – yet I caught him having an affair with someone which had lasted a year and no doubt would have carried on had I not caught him.
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March 8th, 2010 at 8:22 pm
All marriages need work. We are going through a difficult time right now. Communicate and love each other.
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